Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Breaking up is hard to do . . .

ON MONDAY I FINALLY got the guts up to break up with Carpool. It's not that I think carpooling is bad, in fact I think that theoretically it's a very good idea--but that's theoretically. In real life, it wasn't such a wonderful thing. There are a multitude of reasons for the breakup. I have to admit that I missed the autonomy of just leaving work when I wanted, but I have some actual valid reasons also. First, I had to drive an extra 20-30 minutes each way to pick her up (in city stop and go traffic, mind you). This added up to saving one day's drive to Lincoln every two weeks, so the monetary savings aren't as grand as one would imagine. Second, she has this horrible outlook on the world and is NEVER happy. That gets super draining when you're in a car with someone for six hours a week. Third, and most importantly, her driving seriously scared me. She's really aggressive and she tailgates people constantly. Call me crazy, but I'm not a fan of riding someone's bumper going 85 mph. With wintertime just around the corner, I figured I value my life a little more than saving some money and miles on my car. So on Monday, I told her I probably wouldn't be able to continue our carpool relationship.

Everyone told me to use the old "It's me, not you" line, but I ended up using my boss as a scapegoat and saying that with all the changes in the office my schedule is going to be messed up for a while (It's half true). She took it surprisingly well. No uncontrollable sobbing. No irrational anger. No begging to take her back. All I got was an "okay, if you want to start carpooling again in the future let me know." I breathed a sigh of relief and dropped her off for the last time.

Driving alone to work this morning was glorious. I got to leave my house an hour later than I used to and I got to actually listen to my radio stations without gloomy comments. I get to leave right after my last client today and I get to talk to my Mother the whole way home. I'm starting to wonder why I waited so long for this breakup. . .

PS-Okay, so I know that title is a little misleading, but I couldn't resist. James and I are still together and still happy as can be.

6 comments:

Kayley said...

She wouldn't let you talk to your mom on the phone? That's weird. I guess I'm obnoxious, but I would've played the music I liked and ignored the comments!

holyoakj said...

It was more akward than anything to talk to other people on the phone with someone sitting there listening.

Bobbie Jean said...

you are so funny... Loved the story. And good for you! I would have sure broke that relationship up months before now.. ha ha.. But then im kind of picky about driving and music and all that (ask anyone that has ridden with me) But good for! Let her down easy..

Thomas Family said...

Hooray! Freedom!

Spacey Stacy said...

Oh my gosh, you are a saint for putting up with it for that long. Jer has our kids convinced that there will be an avalanche or mudslide if they talk in the car. I know, I know, and everyone thought that I was going to be the one that was going to warp our kids.
PS I love your title, way to get my attention

Kurt and Jasmine said...

Jessie you are so funny. Glad you were able to get out of the relationship so easily :) I just hope she never finds your blog lol